The questions have started flowing.... comments on this blog, emails, a few phone calls, a coffee or two...
There are No Dumb Questions. Our careers are a big part of our lives and there is never a point at which you can't discuss: "what should I do?" "how can I do this?" with your community.
I'll do my best to answer the questions as they come in.
Today's was a real poser. It is something on which I would love to hear your opinion:
What comes first - your child/children or your career?
Here's my initial thoughts:
You are the best example of what a woman can do in this world that your child/children will have. And sometimes that will mean showing her/him that you value yourself. That could mean taking time for yourself, that could mean allowing yourself to pursue a career, that could just mean a bubble bath with no interruptions.
And each day you will make and remake the decision.
If the art of being a parent is flexibility, then allow the same ebb and flow for yourself.
My kid is always in my top 2 priorities...but sometimes to bring him a stronger mom... he's number 2 for a few hours.
He's never been excluded from my career or my friends or my life - he's part of my every breath - but we're in this together vs. the tradition sacrificial role of motherhood.
My child is part of my community and I honour him as a light and centre of my life. However, I must also honour myself and part of who I am is ambitious and hungry to learn and sometimes we must be apart for me to pursue this.