Now, perhaps if she had been reading a list of successful investments and then been urging us to invest with her, that could have made sense. Or if she had listed any well-executed tasks and then told us to trust her with another similar task, that too would have been ok. But she was talking about us - a room full of strangers - trusting her totally and implicitly with our fears, secrets and psyches.
All of which raised some interesting questions - what is trust? how is it earned?
There are varying degrees - just like "love" - and I doubt many of us have really thought hard about it. We trust or we don't. We use our 'gut' as a reference and we forge ahead. There are probably a few givens to explore:
- you can't demand trust with folks you've just met, no matter how great your resume is
- you can't assume trust with folks you've known, unless you've actually discussed the issue
- you can earn trust either quickly or by degree but it should be a conscious effort
- the only way to test trust is to be vulnerable with the other person and see what happens (again vulnerability can be by degrees)
I'm going to ask my new mentor what he thinks...