I'm hard on my mentorees too. However, I offer advice and corrections with love, support and the best of intentions.... an approach I don't often offer myself.
I need correction. I need some criticism even though I don't like it. It is useful to be able to give yourself feedback.
We can do all this with a little understanding and encouragement instead of the usual "oh I'm such an idiot!" and other inner stories of the same type.
Think of it as mentoring yourself.
- Getting it right the first time is less important than trying/practicing
- Talk through successes so they can be repeated easily
- Talk through mistakes or course corrections so they can be done differently in the future
- Let go of the things that make you roll your eyes at yourself if you'll never have to face the same situation/challenge again. Move on!
- Look at your daunting plans with your inner critic and remind both of you of the strengths you possess that will help you in the rough spots
- Remember to cheer yourself on for no reason at all except you were there
We share with respect and kindness; let's include ourselves in the coaching.