- Say loudly in public spaces when out with your kid: "Well, that's a quarter I owe your therapy jar!"
- Wave his unmentionables out the window when driving along a street where his friends live
- Stick to his childhood nickname even when he politely requests you use his real name
- Show pictures of him at 3 years of age, dressed (or not), to all potential girlfriends
- Immortalize his toilet training in your writing
I realized that, despite my best efforts to be on Child Services "most watched" list, my kid had taught me a lot about mentoring by not moving out at a tender age (or any age yet...).
- Parenting and mentoring are a mix of working through one's own issues and stories.
- What's a good story; a lesson to share; a moment I would repeat; an action I would change?
- A parent and a mentor must decide what kind of leadership and guidance style they believe in.
- Believe in and be willing to walk the talk. Good parenting is living and breathing a life philosophy even when it hurts. Mentoring gives the mentor a few extra breaths to take a break but mentors are still role models and eyes are often watching.
- Good parents and mentors ask:
- What do I stand for?
- What practices and beliefs do I want to embody?
- What does that mean day-to-day?
- We cannot parent or mentor effectively when tired, angry or sad. But we often do.
- A great parent or mentor walks their talk inspite of personal circumstance - not hiding thoughts and feelings but being consistent in approach regardless and transparent in how to cope (or not).
I hope my skills have evolved with my philosophy... I'm sure my mentorees and my kid will let me know...